MVM — The Maddalena Vario Method
An 8 Week Private Coaching Journey
There comes a moment when you finally see it. Not the circumstances or the person. The pattern.
You’ve been here before. Different face, same feeling: the uncertainty, the waiting, the quiet hope that this time will be different.
The Maddalena Vario Method is an 8-week, one-to-one coaching journey designed to help you step out of repetitive relationship patterns and build the emotional foundation for a healthy, reciprocal, and genuine partnership.
It’s a structured, evidence-based process that takes you from confusion to clarity, and from clarity to conscious, grounded action.
If you’re ready to stop repeating the past and start choosing differently, this journey was created for you.
Who This Is For
This programme is for women who:
- Feel exhausted by ambiguous connections and emotionally unavailable partners
- Keep finding themselves in familiar dynamics, even when they promised themselves “never again”
- Are intelligent, self-aware, and capable, yet feel lost when it comes to love
- Want a lasting, emotionally mature partnership, not just intensity or potential
- Are ready to look honestly at their patterns and take real responsibility for change
You’re not broken or behind; you’re ready to understand why you’ve been choosing what you’ve been choosing, and to learn how to choose differently.
Why This Method Works
You’ve probably already done a lot of work on yourself; you’ve read the books, done the therapy, had the late-night conversations with friends who tell you what you already know.
But insight alone doesn’t create lasting change.
Real transformation requires three elements working together:
- Emotional awareness: understanding your attachment style, triggers, and the unconscious patterns driving your choices
- Structural clarity: building frameworks that help you recognise what’s actually happening in real time
- Practical execution: translating awareness into daily decisions and new behaviours
The Maddalena Vario Method integrates all three.
What Changes Over These 8 Weeks
Women who complete this journey often describe feeling:
More grounded in themselves: a quiet, stable self-worth that doesn’t rise and fall with someone else’s attention.
Calmer while dating: less anxious overthinking. Less second-guessing. More presence.
Able to see clearly: they can recognise emotional unavailability early on, not six months in.
Confident in their boundaries: they can say no without guilt and yes without fear of being hurt.
Clear about what they want: not what sounds good in theory, but what actually feels right for them.
Intentional, not reactive: dating becomes a conscious process of choice, not a roller coaster they’re strapped into.
Dating becomes something you do, not something that happens to you
How the Journey Is Structured
The method unfolds across 3 carefully designed phases.
Phase 1: Foundations & Reset
We begin by understanding your relational history to comprehend what’s been repeating.
We explore your attachment patterns, the emotional strategies you’ve developed, and the unconscious beliefs that may have shaped your romantic choices.
If you tend toward anxious attachment (overanalysing, seeking reassurance) or avoidant patterns (pulling away when things get close), we work on building emotional regulation so dating no longer feels destabilising.
This phase creates the clarity and internal reset you need to relate differently.
Phase 2: Clarity & Relational Vision
Once your patterns become visible, we build structure around what you actually want.
We define your core values, your non-negotiables, and your vision for a healthy relationship, one grounded in compatibility, not just chemistry.
Together, we create two essential tools:
Your Partner Identikit: a clear, detailed framework of what you’re looking for (and what you’re not)
Your Dating Compass: a practical guide to help you spot green flags, recognise red flags early, and make calm, discerning decisions
These become your internal reference points, your North Star.
Phase 3: Practical Dating & Execution
Awareness without action changes nothing. In this final phase, we bring everything into your real dating life. We refine how you present yourself online and in person, how you communicate your needs, and how you assess whether someone is genuinely available or just temporarily interested.
You learn how to:
- Maintain momentum in early dating without over-investing emotionally
- Pace connection without anxiety taking over
- Stay open and engaged without losing yourself
- Read consistency, and respond to inconsistency, with clarity
Dating stops being something you survive. It becomes something you navigate with intention.
What the Journey Includes
✓ 8 weekly one-to-one sessions (60 minutes each)
✓ A personalised structure tailored to your unique situation and attachment style
✓ Reflection exercises and practical tools to deepen insight between sessions
✓ Strategic guidance explicitly prepared for you before each meeting
✓ Email support Monday to Friday for questions and real-time support
✓ Sessions available in English or Italian
Before We Begin: Your Assessment Call (45 Minutes)
Before starting the programme, we’ll have a relaxed, no-pressure assessment call. Think of it as a conversation.
We’ll explore your current situation, what you’re hoping to shift, and whether this programme is the right fit for where you are right now.
There’s no obligation, just honest dialogue. If we both feel aligned, we begin.
